Adultery vs. Physical Abuse
In a divorce situation, hate for the other is unproductive at least and debilitating for sure.
Although two divorced people may have “equal” grounds for the divorce and hating after a divorce, physical abuse in and of itself is a completely different animal and in no way can be compared to adultery.
In a physically abusive relationship, forgive, let go of the hate, but leave first. There is no talking about it or taking blame for being physically abused that will enable the relationship to survive.
Abuse does come in many forms. Adultery is a form of abuse. Abuse of the the trust and love one professes to the other in a committed relationship.
Not in all cases, but in some, adultery does not have to be the end of a relationship, but cannot be tolerated. Adultery is considered by therapists to be the second most difficult marriage issue to resolve. Anything a spouse does to threaten their spouse’s trust is adultery. Seeking understanding is the first step in knowing whether trying to regain the trust and repair the relationship is worth the time and effort required to really move forward.
In most cases adultery can be stopped in its tracks where physical abuse rarely and most times never stops. Abuse of a spouse is most likely learned behavior. It is easy for the abuser to use the excuse that they can’t help it because of the situation in life that caused them to abuse. They will promise not to ever do it again, they have learned their lesson and cannot live without them. In truth, if a man abuses you once, he will do it again.
Adultery-Understanding-Possibly save a marriage
Physical abuse-the end.
Submitted by Robin Collins.
