There are several mistakes men make that can lead to adultery in their marriage or relationship. Being a woman, in most cases I truly believe these men do not even know what is happening right in front of their eyes. They see the two kids, the fenced back yard, mini van and there you have it. He works, watches football, basketball, and hangs with the guys. Hey, he has married her, she is “his”, and in most cases this husband thinks he has done his job. Not in all cases, but in many, this is wrong. Let me give you guys some pointers.
Sex is wonderful in the beginning. There is excitement and romance. We all know that does not last. By nature men feel the need for release when the wife is looking for the romance and excitement to continue. Women need foreplay. And if a woman is not having an orgasm and you don’t care or even realize it, the marriage is going to go down fast.
Romance and Excitement: Try this guys. When you get that urge to have sex, don’t ask. Walk up behind her, rub her here and there while she is washing dishes or bending over the washer or dryer and it is likely she will join right in. Throw her on the table and make her feel like you have to have her there and now. After all guys, don’t you want that anyway. Think outside the box.
Pay Attention: A major reason some women end up cheating on their partners is a lack of attention and emotional fulfillment. She becomes lonely and goes out looking for the attention and emotional fulfillment she desperately desires. You see some men treat their wives or lovers as if they don’t exist.
Attention comes in many forms such as noticing the little things. Take note when she gets a cut and color at the salon. Not whether you like it or don’t, just a comment that you have noticed. Does she have on a new dress? Is she wearing sexy lingerie to bed? Let her know you notice. If you aren’t paying attention, start. Just pay attention guys the results will be worth this small effort.
Respect Her: A lack of respect in any form is a reason why some women end up cheating on their husbands or lovers. You see some men don’t treat their wives or lovers well. When this happens, she may take emotional revenge on her husband or lover and cheat.
Let’s think about that. Respect could simply be opening a car door or pulling a chair out for her at the dinner table. If you have plans with the guys, make sure she is the first to know. Ask her before you make plans so she feels like a part of the relationship. Always introduce her to anyone you and her encounter that she has not met before. If you use the last razor, tell her so she doesn’t start a shower just to realize there isn’t a razor and there isn’t one to be found. Even if she is “responsible” for purchasing such items, she can’t if she doesn’t know. Last and most importantly, lift the toilet lid and afterwards close the toilet lid. There is nothing worse than siting down on wet toilet seat that hasn’t been lifted or almost falling in the toilet because the lid was not down If respect isn’t in your vocabulary, look it up.
Relationships are tough, but a few simple steps can go a long way. Give it a try.
Dr. Bob Huizenga
