Got Love Life?

 

That a man should always start and lead during sex is ridiculous.  Men also like their partner to take the lead.  To think that men should always be the catalyst in a sexual situation is way too much pressure for any man to take on.  Along with this burden he also is expected to know what his partner wants, and how she wants it.  These are foolish beliefs and if acted upon will leave both partners unsatisfied emotionally and physically.  Ladies it is okay to take the lead.  A man will not think less of you.   

 

A man does not know exactly what his partner wants and needs during sex.  It is imperative that the couple have an effective way of communicating their needs to their partner.  If not it is like a game of cat and mouse as to whether the woman is satisfied.  You have to communicate because if you don’t the burden of making sure she has an orgasm is a heavy load for his erect penis.  Communication is key.

Men are not animals that thrive on sex and have to have it all the time with any woman that is available.  Men do need, in most cases, more sexual release than women, but this does not mean a man is always ready for sex or attracted to every woman that is available to him for sex. Men have emotions and their hormones most certainly play a part in whether they even want sex at all at the time.  It is a ridiculous misconception that men should be “sex machines” able to be erect and have sex anytime, anywhere and with any woman available.

During sex a penis will not always be completely erect.  An erection can come and go during the act, but this does not mean sex cannot be enjoyed.  The misconception that a man should be fully erect from start to finish causes men a great deal of anxiety, self-doubt or their ability to have sex at all.  In turn they distance themselves from not only sex, but their partner. 

 

If both partners are enjoying the act and they are focused on the physical touch of their partner and like the way it makes them feel, the erection will come back. This can happen over and over and be much more enjoyable than an erect, quick penis.  It is important that men understand this particular misconception as it causes men a great deal of self doubt and anxiety.  This can lead to the downfall of a relationship that could otherwise be enjoyable if this particular misconception is understood and the partners have an open line of communication.